Teen Faces Ultimatum Over Paternity Test: College Future at Risk

Family & kids Melisa O.

When this teen got into their dream school, it shouldve been a moment of celebration. Instead, his father hit him with a shocking ultimatum. After uncovering his wifes affair, the father began questioning everything, including whether his own children were really his. Now, one students entire future hangs in the balance, all because of a paternity test he never asked for.

Hello,

So, for some background: My dad and I have never really been close. Hes always been distant and kinda cold toward me growing up, but he made one thing clear: hed pay for college when the time came, no matter what. He was always big on education. That promise is basically the only thing I ever really counted on from him.

Well, things just blew up in our family. A few weeks ago, my dad found out my mom had an affair years ago. Total chaos. Screaming, crying, the whole deal. Then out of nowhere, he demands DNA tests from me and my brother to make sure were actually his kids.

My brother didnt even blink. He looks exactly like my dad, same eyes, same face, even talks like him. Me? Not so much. Ive always gotten comments like, Are you sure youre related? and jokes about the mailman. It never bothered me that much until now.

So heres where it gets worse. My dad sat me down and said, Ill still pay for your college... but only if the test proves youre my son. If not, youre on your own.

I was stunned. I picked an expensive school, partly because he told me not to worry about the cost. He even toured the campus with me. And now hes pulling the rug out from under me, unless I prove something I didnt even know was in question until a week ago.

I havent taken the test yet. Im scared to find out. Not just because of the money, but because what if Im not his kid? What if my entire identity shifts in one second?

My mom is begging me not to do it. She swears Im his, but honestly? I dont know what to believe anymore. Fall semester starts soon, and Im panicking. Ive been looking up emergency scholarships, student loans, anything. But its not looking good.

I know people might say I should just take the test and get it over with, but is it messed up that hes using my future as a weapon just to punish my mom?

Right now, your dad isnt acting like a parent. Hes acting like a gatekeeper to your future. So treat this like business.

If you do consider the test, dont just take it blindly. Draft an agreement (get it in writing) that clearly says: If the test confirms paternity, he pays for college in full, no delays, no extra conditions. Involve a third party if needed. Dont let him move the goalposts later.

You dont want to wait until youre left with nothing to figure out your options. Talk to your schools financial aid office now. Tell them youre facing a sudden withdrawal of parental support.

Some schools have emergency grants or can repackage your aid if your financial situation changes dramatically. Explore part-time job programs and tuition installment plans, even if you dont need it.

If he already took the test and confirmed paternity, youre in a rare position. He might have leverage. If he sees how wrong this situation is, he may back you up, emotionally, or even by talking to your dad.

You dont need to make this a sibling battle. He may even be feeling uncomfortable about the whole thing too but doesnt know how to step in.

Whether or not hes your biological father doesnt define who you are or what you deserve. If he walks away, thats his decision. Start building emotional distance between dad and funding source. That clarity will help you make colder, smarter decisions instead of reacting from hurt or panic.

If the result does come back negative, it doesnt erase your whole life. But it will bring questions, grief, and possibly some peace in time. Allow yourself to feel all of that. Just remember, this storm isnt your fault, and youre not obligated to pretend everythings okay just to keep peace in a family that broke the rules first.

A simple DNA test can serve as the beginning of numerous dark revelations and uncover deep-seated family secrets. The people in this article took the test out of curiosity in order to explore their ancestry, but they never expected to unearth such astonishing truths about their past.

You should start supporting your life even if you're his biological son. Once he came up with this ultimatum you might as well get ready for more. Find a job to pay your collage. You still have your mom and brother

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